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03/07/12 | Uncategorized

Do Women Support Each Other In The Workplace?

As women increasingly secure more senior positions in a corporation, their ability to nurture conflicts with the male model of effective leadership.
By Leah Eichler (Contributing Writer, Femme-O-Nomics)

I recently engaged in two separate conversations, one with a man at the height of his career and one with a woman in the same spot. While both advocate on behalf of women’s advancement in the workplace, they felt they needed to expose a dirty secret on this topic. Women just don’t help each other out.

This sentiment, that women don’t support other women or even undermine their efforts, keeps coming up in this dialogue on women and careers. The persistence of this belief surprises me. I recall some instances where I felt other women treated me unfairly early on in my career but the last few years have been filled with examples where women, even strangers, supported my professional endeavours.

Yet, the notion that women will often trip others who struggle up their own career ladder appears to be so widespread that it needs to be tackled head on. Perhaps we need communal therapy to self-examine this trait. It’s time for introspection. Do we genuinely feel too competitive or are our expectation of support just too high for members of our gender? I’d argue that it’s a little bit of both.

“I think it’s a conundrum,” said Mary Aitken, managing director and founder of Verity, a business, social and wellness club for women in Toronto. Ms. Aitken suggests that a scarcity of women at the very tops of their industry or corporation may spur a sense of competition that trumps our inclination to be supportive.

“We don’t have hundreds of years of experience running corporations, so we’re still building our confidence. Twenty years from now, we’ll look back and wonder why this whole confidence thing was such a big deal,” she suggested.

To bolster women’s support network, Ms. Aitken created Verity as an answer to the “Old Boys Club.”

A former investment banker, she spent years watching women rush home from work to handle the various obligations of their “second shift” while men often took the time to socialize over drinks. That provided a priceless opportunity to informally share ideas and form relationships, critical for advancement.

Dr. Kathy Kram, a professor of organizational behavior at Boston University, believes that the rise of professional women’s groups over the last 20 years shows an evolving trend on women supporting each other. She explains that the nagging persistence of this theory that women don’t support each other comes down to our social expectation of women as nurturers.

As women increasingly secure more senior positions in a corporation, their ability to nurture conflicts with the male model of effective leadership.

“As women advance, they are expected to fit the male executive model. If they start prioritizing the company’s goals and strategic objectives and are stretched because they are in an increasingly senior role they may have to put boundaries around how much they can support junior women,” explained Dr. Kram, adding that this is seen as a lack of support rather than a necessity given their time constraints.

As a Catch-22, since our social expectations differ, when a woman turns down an opportunity to mentor a more junior woman in her organization, it may be perceived more harshly than if a man did the same.

Logically speaking, there’s no reason why men are more or less likely to mentor or sponsor other men in the workplace than women are but the issue is given less scrutiny.

“Women do help one another a lot and are predisposed to help but like everything else around women in business, when they don’t it is given undue attention,” argued Stephanie MacKendrick, president of Canadian Women in Communications, a national organization dedicated to the advancement of women in the communications sector. She observed that women who do come across as being unwilling to support other women have often been forced to battle their way through largely male business environments.

“There is a thought process that says, “I had to fight and give up a lot to get here, I don’t see why women who follow shouldn’t do the same,” said Ms. MacKendrick, adding that she often finds these women are open to informal channels to assist others but resist the idea of feeling obligated to automatically help the next generation.

Could this sentiment that women feel threatened by other women be generational? My gut instinct tells me that the notion that only a select number of women will be allowed to rise to the top needs to be on its way out.

“Ten years go it was more common to hear the stories: everyone knew about a woman who climbed the ladder, kicked the ladder away, and maybe even let it land on someone else,” reflected Jo Miller, CEO of Women’s Leadership Coaching, a U.S.-based company that provides programming for women’s groups, mainly in the high tech sector.

“Thankfully all this is changing and there is a stronger culture of women helping women,” she observed.

This post was originally published at Femmeonomics.

About the guest blogger: Leah Eichler is the Co-Founder of Femme-O-Nomics, a networking application and content portal for professional women. She is also a well-known columnist on issues surrounding women in the workplace. Follow her on Twitter at @femmeonomics.

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